I DON’T KNOW
This month I am beginning this chat with two real life incidents which will serve to illustrate the crux of this post.
So here goes.
About six months ago, I went to the pharmacy to pick up the second repeat of two medicines that I had been prescribed. During the developments of the previous month I had lost the off-switch to my appetite which meant that everything in my path was in danger of being eaten, with the result that I had to endure popping buttons, bursting seams and a mind bemused by my new swell identity.
As the meds had been the only new introduction to my life, I asked the pharmacist to identify the culprit. “Oh it must be that one,” she said. I subsequently discovered that her answer was incorrect.
Fortunately that health saga came to an end except for the battle of the bulge which has a tenacity that defies the laws of normal, which is:
the rediscovery of your appetite’s off-switch equals a drastic reduction of food intake, (I got that one right!),
which in turn equals reduction in body size – now that’s where my body holds up the finger!
Fast forward to this week where once again I visited the pharmacy. (No, I don’t live at the pharmacy, in fact I revert to the natural route wherever possible, but once you enter the third tri-cycle of life, odd little things seem to pop up from time to time which draw a blank from me.) This time I asked the pharmacist (a different one) exactly what the prescribed medicine does and how it works. She immediately looked it up, right there in front of me. My respect for her instantly grew.
No one can be expected to know everything even if the information falls within your professional field. And being open and transparent about it, does wonders for your credibility.
Consider two prominent figures from the past. (This is an example I draw upon often in coaching.) President Clinton boldly and emphatically denied ever having had sexual relations with ‘that woman’. The late Princess Diana openly confessed that she was bulimic. Which one had credibility? Which one did you feel was trustworthy?
it’s here to stay.
• Asking for what we need
• Being ourselves
• Being kind to others who are trying to
• Learning how to be brave and afraid at the
exact same time.”
So, there is nothing wrong with the answer: “I don’t know.” There is nothing wrong with disclosing your ignorance about something. Give yourself the assurance that it’s okay when you don’t know what’s going on. Then you are free to be transparent about finding out what you need to know.
We are all humans, and as such perfect individualized embodiments of spectacular imperfection.