This is the time of the year when the months seem to hang on some kind of religious or celebratory festive occasion. So I am going to join the trend by sprinkling a little sparkle on the fading Valentine flowers with the offer of a free 40 minute one-on-one Skype coaching session with me, Gill. This offer extends to the next ten enrollments in the Meaningful Retirement course as from today to the end of February 2019. Participants will only be eligible for the coaching session at the completion of the course.
Please go to https://www.udemy.com/meaningful-retirement/ to sign up. Once you are enrolled and registered, send me a private message via the facility provided, with the words February Offer to ensure your coaching spot with me.
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Free from society’s conditioning, or the need to compare for appropriateness, this sunflower doesn’t know (nor does it care) when to put the brakes on. At 3.8m (12ft 5½ ins), it’s called sun-thriving!
Nor do we need to put the brakes on when we hit the 3rd Tri-cycle of life. In fact, we can sur-thrive by taking the brakes off and making breakthroughs. Discover more at www.udemy.com/meaningful-retirement/
The end of the year signals, ranging from merely a New Year’s date to perhaps, for some, children leaving the nest or the beginning of retirement.
Will life still be as meaningful after retirement?
We’ve just launched a new online course through Udemy called Meaningful Retirement which shows you how to continue designing a life of meaning where your whole being says YES to LIVING.
A new launch means discounts which can also translate as an affordable gift to yourself or someone close to you.
Through a combination of video sessions, real life examples, downloads with exercises and probing questions you will gain conceptual tools to tackle this phase of life with a renewed perspective by discovering:
- what really makes you tick, the real you (not the you everyone else expects you to be)
- how to free yourself from all that ties you to the past, such as regrets
- how to gain the courage to show up in life – it’s never too late!
- options galore of what you can do – various activities and outlets where ideas for your third tri-cycle of life may germinate and flourish
This is a journey of exploration and discovery.
If the course resonates with you, we’d really appreciate it if you would post a review, and please, feel free to invite your friends to take it as well.
The story we repeatedly tell ourselves – about ourselves or our circumstances – is often one that echoes strongly within our circle of close friends. If we are like-minded we’ll no doubt share important values as well as find common ground in the ‘issues department’ where we can thrash out a good old moan.
Besides being like-minded, ‘close’ suggests trust and support and therefore our circle of friends offers a safe space in which to air nagging grievances and in the process lighten the load,or so it feels.
Feeling lighter is great but finding answers and greater clarity is a whole lot better.
I can take this up a transformative notch or two, by providing you with practical and informative tools and a ‘can do’ approach to turning around concerns and issues.
I am offering a mini workshop for you and a group of your friends in the convenience of your home. The familiar and informal setting of your home will provide a relaxed atmosphere, allowing openness to new ideas and the gentle questioning of thoughts.
Rather than slipping into a rut of dissatisfaction by going over and over the same old button-pushing issues,
let me help you turn your issues around and free you to move forward with your life.
Of course, there is no reason why Coffee Corner Chat with a Coach cannot happen in the virtual realm too via Skype.
If you are interested, please click here so we can have a pre-chat, and then set a date when you and a few of your friends can get together in your home (if within a reasonable distance of Fourways in Johannesburg), or around a laptop, all with coffee on hand!
Mutually suitable times can be arranged, including Saturdays and early evenings.
Workshops and all enquiries are strictly confidential.
When at last
we cover not
the true identity of being,
Let’s shame us not
the layers we shed
that once composed the mask.
but more than that,
it’s the desire to regain the Am.
For what’s the point to mask and mould
The I, I first did choose?
Hope is everlasting. Without it we should surely perish because it is that which holds us to the substrate of our tenuous existence. We linger in the realm of possibilities yet hesitate at the temptation to venture. This is not reason but rather a choice. For taking a step would indeed reflect back to the grounding point with which we are beset. Where do we go when we require answers? To that haven called hope – the tenet that dilutes our despair. Despair without hope would render us immobile in the face of moving forward.
We cannot cripple or enchain the seedlings of growth that surge forth. What we do not know is that propensity must advance and we cannot stampede it. If we look and yes enquire, we hold the staff of hope foremost and ahead to lighten what we dread. For life without the tunnel of escape would turn despair to the damnation of finality. It is the possibility of new that keeps the wheel turning, however slowly it may grind.
Hope embodies reason to be, the continuation.
It is the opposite of knowing, no?
For if you know, why would you need to hope?
Hope carries the desire for a favoured outcome in the face of uncertainty.
Absolutely knowing does not change uncertainty which remains the absolute constant that underlies the fabric of life. There is only one constant in life and that is change. For example, if somebody has told you that he/she does not love you, that knowing does not make it absolute. If hope were to be subtracted, how would change happen in the face of apparent adversity? Hope is the counterbalance for despair. It is the perpetuator of human life as we currently know it.
As a more evolved consciousness we would not need to entertain hope but rather an acceptance of the innate power of creation. For to will, will be. It is not faith, it is even beyond believing.
Hope commandeers force. The critical life force thinking, with which it shares consequence of thought.
How do we go from hope to creating?
Hope disseminates the seeds for creation. We hope for many things, but what we see is only our sub-conscious perception, whether it be self-sabotaging or an adopted victim persona.
Intention is your forethought.
What is the truth of your intention that you think lies beyond your conception? The capacity to believe in secret manifestation.
Your thought interacts between you and your intention to fulfil your dreams, your deepest desires. So if your intention is to be successful, but your thoughts are self-sabotaging, the consequence is reflective of your thoughts.
When you have thoughts of desperation, hope commandeers a new beginning, a deeper thought in self-value.
TO HOPE IS TO DREAM TRUE YOUR ASPIRATIONS.
LIST YOUR ASPIRATIONS AND YOUR DREAMS WILL RENEW THEMSELVES – AS THE SOURCE OF SELF-THOUGHT BECOMES SELF-MOTIVATION.
Opinions drenched in venom and anger seldom, if ever, benefit anyone in the long term. But attempts to understand the other, and the suggestion of possible solutions are surely the ingredients that will do far more towards achieving a positive outcome. Venomous outpourings, anger and hatred generate more of the same. All feelings (which come from thinking, conscious or sub-conscious) arise from EITHER fear or love.
It’s easy to judge and condemn others, whether by virtue of our own preconceived ideas of right and wrong, or in terms of the law.
But trying to understand others requires a great deal of effort, and the greater the effort, the greater the reward. By attempting to understand, we are opening our mind to the vast field of possibilities that can fuel behaviour and attitudes.
Will we ever truly and fully understand the other? No, because we have never lived the other’s life and we have never lived from inside the other’s mind, and we never will.
But by trying to understand from whence cometh the other, we are ensuring that our portal to compassion stays wide open. We become less inclined to adopt attitudes born of prejudice, hatred and fear but rather tip the scales of perception in favour of wisdom and ultimately, unconditional love.
“Compassion is the desire that moves the individual self to widen the scope of its self-concern to embrace the whole of the universal self.” ~ Arnold Toynbee
Sharing your experience of life with others can lead to personal growth, if you so choose …. But if your perception of what others do and say is confined within the parameters of your measure of expectations and consequences, well then, you are probably missing out on a whole lot of enjoyment in life.
Ask yourself if you are really the best person to interpret the intentions of others. Do you honestly believe that others take time out of their own busy lives to scheme against you? If you answered ‘yes’, then perhaps you should capitalise on your breakthrough ability of entering the minds of others to establish the absolute truth on intentions.
We all experience a time when we feel we’ve been wronged. But if we allow that feeling to form the premise for all relationships that follow and our ensuing behaviour, then our potential to experience and grow is severely impaired.
Your life is your creation and when something occurs that involves another, it’s a co-creation.
Living life is like weaving a tapestry – where you choose to end off each time, creates the beginning for the next phase. The end and the beginning are the same thing. The colours and textures of your tapestry depict the way you experience life, what you notice and where you choose to focus your energy. So if you end off the day with Peggy forgot my birthday, Jane is so extravagant and John is lazy and utterly disrespectful towards me, that forms the launching pad of your next beginning. Where you tied it off, is where you have to continue. If you start a beginning on a consolidation of the past, where the past is a whole bunch of woes, then you are subsequently projecting the past as your new beginning to a point of standstill.
A point of standstill reflects an over-riding protection response and if you are in protection response, it is physically impossible to be in growth response – see cell biologist Bruce Lipton Ph.D. in past blog The eroding power of hearing and sharing. It’s what I call the P and G modes.
If you’re in the P mode you fear that you are:
- not being respected,
- being taken advantage of,
- too poor,
- not clever enough,
- not good enough,
- being threatened ….
In G mode you:
- embrace uncertainty,
- welcome adventure,
- see and enjoy the positives in others,
- accept and honour yourself,
- continue to grow,
- are open…..
Weaving all the bad things into a tapestry reflects a P mode life. It may be well woven but the picture is still offensive and of no value – a very sad source of projection.
As you weave the next phase, rather than weaving all the bad things together, you can choose to create a new beginning for tomorrow by the way you tie off.
“Correspond not to the order that once was failure to begin a new beginning”~ Serapis Bey
Instead of living life in tally mode or trading mode, where your code of conduct equates to “I’ll do this provided you do that”, transform your life into an experience of sharing – sharing your energy, your effort, your love. A good way to start is by doing something for someone who cannot repay you, as in give and forget.
“Sharing does not come in quantities.
So there is no need to stylise an approach to what is forthcoming and freely available without measure or consequence.
If you ration something, it is because you fear an inappropriate disposal.” ~ Serapis Bey
Check the light-hearted social media pages like FaceBook on Fridays, and you can bet your bottom dollar, that there’ll be an avalanche of jokified posters celebrating the fact that it’s Friday which means counting down the hours to knock off time.
Then along rolls Monday and sure as nuts there comes the FB avalanche again, but this time depicting the scary depression of Mondays.
Yes, it may be light-hearted, and yes, there is nothing bad about enjoying weekends, BUT, not enjoying Monday to Friday begs questioning. Just do the simple Maths: two days of enjoyment against five days of yuckypoo Aaaaarrgh!!
That means 71% of your adult working life is spent in misery waiting for relief. And over the 29% of it, floats a cloud containing the dread of returning to work on Monday.
But besides the fact that such an imbalance can genuinely cause depression along with a host of other unwelcome conditions, it’s hardly a life that earns the stamp of success, no matter what material assets may have been accumulated.
So how does ‘what you do’ truly earn the stamp of success?
- love doing it,
- feel that it is really meaningful,
- and you derive a sense of independence from it.
It is never too late to address this matter unless your mind has taken permanent leave of your body and/or you are no longer breathing! And even if age leaves you on the wrong side for launching a career in brain surgery for example, there are still affiliated avenues to pursue where the sweet taste of success waits for you.
Although, initially, you may find it difficult to identify what brings you joy and fulfilment, the traces are still there deep within you. There are various tools and exercises that we can do to help us re-discover our own personal passion gems, and once discovered, there are further measures we can take to become courageous, and impervious to the critics, including our own inner critic.
“Service which is rendered without joy helps neither the servant nor the served. But all other pleasures and possessions pale into nothingness before service which is rendered in a spirit of joy.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi