Frequently asked by parents, grandparents, nannies or au pairs is the question: What can I do with a young child or grandchild that’s simple and easy, yet effective in bolstering imagination and confidence?

The busy life of parents leaves little time to think about the what and how of playing with young children, and that’s where our second online course, MindScapes in ChildPlay, can help you in providing many answers to this question, that are demonstrated by parents and their children.

Lala and floaty paper

Preview lectures have been posted on YouTube, with Lecture 7 appearing today. This one shows mothers and their children taking part in the activities exploring pine cones amidst giggles and laughter. Kyla and Cones


Most of the props in the course have three lectures dedicated to each one, simply because each and every one offers endless sensory explorations that generate fun-filled, open-ended activities.

Just Matthew heads in box

The golden rule of no right or wrong predominates throughout this course which in turn allows a freedom of expression in the complete absence of judgement.

We are all unique in our combination of talent and potential and MindScapes in ChildPlay encourages the confident emergence of this individuality in your child.

To access the course please click here

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Our new course for parents, or anyone who looks after young children, was launched today!


MindScapes in ChildPlay is now live and to celebrate the event we have allocated a number of free coupons to give away. These will give direct access to the course for free. If you or someone you know has young children (preschool age) or looks after them, such as grandparents or caregivers, send an email to  and on the basis of first come first served, we’ll have great pleasure sending them off.


For a preview of the course please click here


The course is chock-a-block full of ideas to get you into the flow of seeing the endless possibilities that surround you within your home that will fire your imagination and in turn keep your child’s inner fire of curiosity well stoked. All the activities presented in the course are merely suggestions to encourage you into the mind-opening flow of seeing and realising the multi-sensory opportunities for exploration that are always present. The course provides you with initial prompts, suggestions and pointers to elicit your child’s participation as you play alongside him or her, but never to be insisted upon or dictated. MindScapes in ChildPlay is imbued with fun-filled free play in the complete absence of stodgy parameters of right and wrong. Simple as the open-ended props or playthings may be, they carry a dimensional depth that facilitates accessing those hidden gems of unique individuality.


MindScapes in ChildPlay makes an ideal gift for young parents, expecting mums (not forgetting baby showers), grandparents, doting aunts and anyone who spends time with preschool children.


The course is soaked in fun while demonstrating a variety of activities with an array of simple things, generating divergent thinking and a strong imagination, giving your child the confidence to be who he or she was born to be.

Sprinkling our sparkle

This is the time of the year when the months seem to hang on some kind of religious or celebratory festive occasion. So I am going to join the trend by sprinkling a little sparkle on the fading Valentine flowers with the offer of a free 40 minute one-on-one Skype coaching session with me, Gill. This offer extends to the next ten enrollments in the Meaningful Retirement course as from today to the end of February 2019. Participants will only be eligible for the coaching session at the completion of the course.

Please go to to sign up. Once you are enrolled and registered, send me a private message via the facility provided, with the words February Offer to ensure your coaching spot with me.

If you would like to receive more sparkles when they are sprinkled – usually monthly – please subscribe below.



Free from society’s conditioning, or the need to compare for appropriateness, this sunflower doesn’t know (nor does it care) when to put the brakes on. At 3.8m (12ft 5½ ins), it’s called sun-thriving!

Nor do we need to put the brakes on when we hit the 3rd Tri-cycle of life. In fact, we can sur-thrive by taking the brakes off and making  breakthroughs. Discover more at


The end of the year signals, ranging from merely a New Year’s date to perhaps, for some, children leaving the nest or the beginning of retirement.
Will life still be as meaningful after retirement?

What are you going to do next?

We’ve just launched a new online course through Udemy called Meaningful Retirement which shows you how to continue designing a life of meaning where your whole being says YES to LIVING.

new launch means discounts which can also translate as an affordable gift to yourself or someone close to you.

Click here for course

Free yourself

Through a combination of video sessions, real life examples, downloads with exercises and probing questions you will gain conceptual tools to tackle this phase of life with a renewed perspective by discovering:

  • what really makes you tick, the real you (not the you everyone else expects you to be)
  • how to free yourself from all that ties you to the past, such as regrets
  • how to gain the courage to show up in life – it’s never too late!
  • options galore of what you can do – various activities and outlets where ideas for your third tri-cycle of life may germinate and flourish

This is a journey of exploration and discovery.

If the course resonates with you, we’d really appreciate it if you would post a review, and please, feel free to invite your friends to take it as well.

The story we repeatedly tell ourselves – about ourselves or our circumstances – is often one that echoes strongly within our circle of close friends. If we are like-minded we’ll no doubt share important values as well as find common ground in the ‘issues department’ where we can thrash out a good old moan.

Besides being like-minded, ‘close’ suggests trust and support and therefore our circle of friends offers a safe space in which to air nagging grievances and in the process lighten the load,or so it feels.

Feeling lighter is great but finding answers and greater clarity is a whole lot better.

I can take this up a transformative notch or two, by providing you with practical and informative tools and a ‘can do’ approach to turning around concerns and issues.

I am offering a mini workshop for you and a group of your friends in the convenience of your home. The familiar and informal setting of your home will provide a relaxed atmosphere, allowing openness to new ideas and the gentle questioning of thoughts.

Rather than slipping into a rut of dissatisfaction by going over and over the same old button-pushing issues,

let me help you turn your issues around and free you to move forward with your life.


Of course, there is no reason why Coffee Corner Chat with a Coach cannot happen in the virtual realm too via Skype.

If you are interested, please click here so we can  have a pre-chat, and then set a date when you and a few of your friends can get together in your home (if within a reasonable distance of Fourways in Johannesburg), or around a laptop, all with coffee on hand!

Mutually suitable times can be arranged, including Saturdays and early evenings.

Workshops and all enquiries are strictly confidential.





When at last

we cover not

the true identity of being,

Let’s shame us not

the layers we shed

that once composed the mask.

Bravery fuels,

but more than that,

it’s the desire to regain the Am.

For what’s the point to mask and mould

The I, I first did choose?

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Opinions drenched in venom and anger seldom, if ever, benefit anyone in the long term. But attempts to understand the other, and the suggestion of possible solutions are surely the ingredients that will do far more towards achieving a positive outcome. Venomous outpourings, anger and hatred generate more of the same. All feelings (which come from thinking, conscious or sub-conscious) arise from EITHER fear or love.


It’s easy to judge and condemn others, whether by virtue of our own preconceived ideas of right and wrong, or in terms of the law.

But trying to understand others requires a great deal of effort, and the greater the effort, the greater the reward. By attempting to understand, we are opening our mind to the vast field of possibilities that can fuel behaviour and attitudes.

Will we ever truly and fully understand the other? No, because we have never lived the other’s life and we have never lived from inside the other’s mind, and we never will.

But by trying to understand from whence cometh the other, we are ensuring that our portal to compassion stays wide open. We become less inclined to adopt attitudes born of prejudice, hatred and fear but rather tip the scales of perception in favour of wisdom and ultimately, unconditional love.

“Compassion is the desire that moves the individual self to widen the scope of its self-concern to embrace the whole of the universal self.” ~ Arnold Toynbee

Sharing your experience of life with others can lead to personal growth, if you so choose ….                                   But if your perception of what others do and say is confined within the parameters of your measure of expectations and consequences, well then, you are probably missing out on a whole lot of enjoyment in life.

Ask yourself if you are really the best person to interpret the intentions of others. Do you honestly believe that others take time out of their own busy lives to scheme against you? If you answered ‘yes’, then perhaps you should capitalise on your breakthrough ability of entering the minds of others to establish the absolute truth on intentions.

We all experience a time when we feel we’ve been wronged. But if we allow that feeling to form the premise for all relationships that follow and our ensuing behaviour, then our potential to experience and grow is severely impaired.

Your life is your creation and when something occurs that involves another, it’s a co-creation.

Living life is like weaving a tapestry – where you choose to end off each time, creates the beginning for the next phase. The end and the beginning are the same thing. The colours and textures of your tapestry depict the way you experience life, what you notice and where you choose to focus your energy. So if you end off the day with Peggy forgot my birthday, Jane is so extravagant and John is lazy and utterly disrespectful towards me, that forms the launching pad of your next beginning. Where you tied it off, is where you have to continue. If you start a beginning on a consolidation of the past, where the past is a whole bunch of woes, then you are subsequently projecting the past as your new beginning to a point of standstill.

A point of standstill reflects an over-riding protection response and if you are in protection response, it is physically impossible to be in growth response – see cell biologist Bruce Lipton Ph.D. in past blog The eroding power of hearing and sharing. It’s what I call the P and G modes.

If you’re in the P mode you fear that you are:

  • not being respected,
  • being taken advantage of,
  • too poor,
  •  not clever enough,
  • not good enough,
  • being threatened ….

In G mode you:

  • embrace uncertainty,
  • welcome adventure,
  • see and enjoy the positives in others,
  • accept and honour yourself,
  • continue to grow,
  • are open…..

Weaving all the bad things into a tapestry reflects a P mode life. It may be well woven but the picture is still offensive and of no value – a very sad source of projection.

As you weave the next phase, rather than weaving all the bad things together, you can choose to create a new beginning for tomorrow by the way you tie off.

“Correspond not to the order that once was failure to begin a new beginning”~ Serapis Bey

Instead of living life in tally mode or trading mode, where your code of conduct equates to “I’ll do this provided you do that”, transform your life into an experience of sharing – sharing your energy, your effort, your love. A good way to start is by doing something for someone who cannot repay you, as in give and forget.

“Sharing does not come in quantities.

 So there is no need to stylise an approach to what is forthcoming and freely available without measure or consequence.

 If you ration something, it is because you fear an inappropriate disposal.” ~ Serapis Bey